Welcome
11 Dates is a private space designed for people who value meaningful connection, warm conversation, and a respectful, elevated dating experience. These Behaviour & Conduct standards ensure the community remains safe, comfortable, and enjoyable for everyone.
All members must agree to these terms before joining.
1. Respect & Courtesy
We hold ourselves to a standard of calm, thoughtful communication.
Members agree to:
- Treat others with respect, kindness, and consideration
- Communicate politely, especially online where tone matters
- Engage in conversations with openness and maturity
- Honour differences in opinion without hostility
Respect is the foundation of meaningful connection.
2. Authenticity
Honesty creates trust. Members agree that:
- All profile information is accurate and genuine
- Photos represent current appearance
- No misleading, edited, or false identities will be used
- Duplicate or hidden profiles are not permitted
Authenticity helps everyone feel grounded and secure.
3. Appropriate Behaviour
11 Dates is a refined space. Members agree to avoid:
- Harassment, pressure, or persistent messaging
- Sexual, explicit, or suggestive language
- Manipulative, controlling, or coercive behaviour
- Aggressive, belittling, or intimidating conduct
- Any form of judgement, shaming, or hostility
A comfortable atmosphere is essential to everyone’s experience.
4. Privacy & Confidentiality
Trust is central to this community. Members agree:
- Not to screenshot, record, or save event content
- Not to share private conversations without consent
- Not to disclose another member’s personal information
- To respect the confidentiality of all mixers and communications
Discretion maintains the elegance and safety of 11 Dates.
5. Messaging Etiquette
Messaging unlocks only after attending two mixers.
Members agree to:
- Keep early conversations balanced and respectful
- Avoid excessive messaging or repeated follow-ups
- Understand that “no” requires no explanation
- Not pressure someone to meet or exchange personal details
- Avoid pursuing interaction if the other person is not responsive
Healthy conversation should feel mutual, never forced.
6. Conduct During Events
Members agree to:
- Join mixers on time
- Keep video switched on
- Engage in a calm and respectful manner
- Follow host guidance when required
- Avoid alcohol-related excess during events
- Help preserve the comfortable, elegant atmosphere of the space
Events run smoothly when everyone participates with care.
7. Personal Responsibility
Members acknowledge that:
- They are responsible for their own decisions
- They choose whether to communicate privately
- They choose whether to meet someone in person
- They should follow the Safety Guidance provided by 11 Dates
11 Dates facilitates introductions; we do not supervise interactions.
8. Zero Tolerance
The following behaviours may result in immediate removal without refund:
- Harassment, threats, or aggressive behaviour
- Discrimination, hate speech, or derogatory remarks
- Sexual or explicit content
- Sharing private information
- Attempting to contact members without their consent
- Recording or screenshotting events
- Creating fake or misleading profiles
We protect our community decisively and without hesitation.
9. Reporting Concerns
If behaviour feels inappropriate, unsafe, or uncomfortable:
- Use the in-platform reporting tool
- Or email: hello@11dates.co.uk
All reports are handled discreetly, professionally, and without judgement.
10. Agreement
By becoming a member of 11 Dates, you confirm that:
- You have read these Behaviour & Conduct standards
- You understand what is expected of you
- You agree to follow these principles at all times
- You accept that violations may result in removal
Maintaining the quality and safety of this community is a shared responsibility.
A Final Note
11 Dates was created for those who want dating to feel intentional, enjoyable, and grounded in respect. These standards help preserve the calm, elegant atmosphere that makes meaningful connection possible.
Thank you for being part of this community and contributing to the experience we value.