Welcome
Your safety and comfort matter.
11 Dates is designed to be a thoughtful, modern space for meeting like-minded people — but we also recognise the importance of keeping your judgement clear and your wellbeing front and centre.
This guide offers calm, practical advice so you can enjoy dating with confidence.
1. Staying Safe Online
1.1 Be Mindful With Sharing Personal Details
There’s no rush to share anything private.
Keep early conversations within the platform until you feel fully comfortable.
Avoid sharing:
- Address
- Workplace
- Daily routines
- Private social media
- Children’s details
- Holiday dates
- Financial information
You set the pace.
1.2 Use Your Instincts
If something feels “off”, even slightly, treat it seriously.
Your instincts are valid.
Trust the small cues:
- Someone pushing too fast
- Someone becoming overly intense
- Someone avoiding verification
- Someone ignoring boundaries
If you feel uneasy, step back and report it.
1.3 Keep Communication Balanced
Healthy conversations should feel:
- Light
- Respectful
- Mutual
- Comfortable
If someone is messaging excessively, demanding attention, or pushing you into deeper intimacy quickly, you can pause or block without explanation.
2. Your Safety During Online Events
2.1 Video On
This helps our mixers feel authentic and safe.
2.2 No Recording
Never record or screenshot sessions.
This is both a rule and a safety boundary.
2.3 If You Feel Uncomfortable
Leave the session quietly and message us afterwards.
You will not need to justify your decision.
2.4 Respect Other Members
Everyone is here because they value meaningful connection.
Treat others with the same calm, considerate energy you’d expect.
3. When You Decide to Meet in Person
Meeting offline is your choice — and entirely your responsibility.
Here’s how to remain safe without feeling fearful.
3.1 Choose a public place
Restaurants, cafés, hotel bars, galleries, busy venues.
Never isolated locations.
3.2 Tell someone you trust
Share:
- Where you’re going
- Who you’re meeting
- Your expected return time
3.3 Arrange your own transport
Never accept car lifts from someone you don’t know.
3.4 Keep alcohol minimal
Stay aware and in control of your decisions.
3.5 Don’t share home details
Avoid invitations to home addresses early on.
3.6 Leave if the atmosphere changes
You do not owe politeness to someone who makes you uncomfortable.
A simple “I’m going to head off now” is enough.
4. Recognising Red Flags
Healthy dating feels steady, respectful, and reciprocal.
If someone demonstrates any of the following, take it seriously:
- Excessive messaging or intensity early on
- Refusing video calls
- Avoiding simple questions
- Pressuring you to meet quickly
- Over-familiarity too soon
- Disrespectful humour or comments
- Anger or sulking if you set a boundary
None of these are compatible with meaningful connection.
5. How to Report a Concern
If someone’s behaviour feels inappropriate, uncomfortable, or unsafe:
- Use the in-platform reporting tool
- Or email us directly at hello@11dates.co.uk
We handle every report discreetly and calmly.
Your wellbeing is our priority.
6. Your Personal Power
Safety isn’t about fear — it’s about feeling:
- aware
- steady
- in control
- clear about boundaries
- confident in your instincts
You deserve to feel safe while exploring connection.
This guidance is here to support that.
7. A Note From Us
11 Dates exists because dating should feel intentional, enjoyable, and respectful — not overwhelming or unsafe.
By taking small, steady precautions, you allow room for the good stuff:
- chemistry
- conversation
- joy
- hope
- genuine connection
We’re here to create the environment.
You get to choose what feels right for you.